Handle Workplace Conversations About Raises, Quitting, and Performance Reviews

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Career Counseling March 9, 2026

Handle Workplace Conversations About Raises, Quitting, and Performance Reviews

Mastering Key Workplace Conversations for Career Success

​Navigating important workplace conversations can feel intimidating, whether you’re asking for a raise, quitting, or responding to a performance review. Knowing how to prepare, what to say, and how to communicate professionally can help you protect relationships, demonstrate your value, and advance your career. This guide provides practical scripts, preparation tips, and real-life examples to ensure you handle these conversations confidently and effectively.

Preparing for Critical Workplace Conversations

​Before stepping into any discussion about a raise, resignation, or performance review, preparation is key. Gathering facts, documenting achievements, understanding company policies, and choosing the right timing can make a world of difference in how your message is received. With a clear plan, you’ll approach each conversation confidently, keeping it professional and productive. The following sections break down common workplace situations into actionable steps, sample scripts, and guidance, so you can navigate these conversations successfully.

Situation 1: Asking for a Meeting to Discuss a Raise

Before you ask for a meeting to discuss a raise, it’s important to approach the conversation strategically. You are not asking for a casual chat. Instead, you are seeking a professional discussion that requires preparation, clarity, and timing. Gather evidence of your contributions, achievements, and additional responsibilities, and be ready to present them in a way that demonstrates the value you bring to the company. Planning will help you feel confident, articulate your request effectively, and set a professional tone that increases the likelihood of a positive outcome.

Preparation:

• Before the meeting, gather the necessary research and information to justify your request for a raise. This can include comparative salary research as well as a list of responsibilities and accomplishments in your current role, your previous performance evaluations, kudos from customers or coworkers, and even job postings for similar positions.
• In addition, understand how raises are typically handled in your company. Are they given out at a specific time each year? Are they merit-based or performance-based, or fixed cost-of-living raises?
• Have a specific number in mind for your pay raise (even if you don’t mention the number in the meeting).
• Don’t use personal or emotional reasons for requesting a raise. Don’t say why you need the money. Keep the focus on your work performance as the reason for the pay increase.
• Also consider the timing of when you’re asking for the meeting. Don’t ask to talk about your salary when your boss is busy with other things.
• On the other hand, if you’ve just completed a big project or reached a milestone (for example, your first anniversary with the company), that’s a good time to ask for a raise.

Ask for the meeting:

[Boss name], I’m hoping we can talk about my salary. It’s been [timeframe] since my last raise, and I’ve taken on additional work during that time. I’d like to talk about increasing my salary to reflect these additional responsibilities.  

(You can mention one or two of the additional tasks you’ve taken on when making your request.)  

Can we schedule a time next week to discuss that?  

(Choose a timeframe that works for you and your boss.)

How it might sound:

You: Jim, I’m hoping we can talk about my salary. It’s been a year since my last raise, and I’ve taken on additional work during that time with the departure of Karen and Bill. I’d like to talk about increasing my salary to reflect these additional responsibilities.  

Boss: Sure. When do you want to meet?  

You: How about next Tuesday or Wednesday?  

Boss: Sure. We can do 10 a.m. on Tuesday.  

You: Great. Thanks.

Situation 2: Asking for a Pay Raise During the Meeting

Once you’ve scheduled the meeting, it’s time to focus on how you will present your case. This is your opportunity to highlight the tangible results you’ve achieved, the extra responsibilities you’ve taken on, and how your performance has contributed to the team and company objectives. Framing your request around measurable accomplishments rather than personal needs ensures that the discussion stays professional, persuasive, and grounded in your value as an employee.

How it might sound:

You: First of all, I’m happy to have just celebrated my third year with the company. To prepare for today’s meeting, I pulled together a list of my responsibilities and accomplishments from this past year, and did some research that indicates what similar positions at comparable companies pay. As you can see, I’ve directly contributed $740,000 to the company’s bottom line in the past 12 months. Also, I took on several new responsibilities when Jane left the company in August. While my current salary is $68,000, I’ve discovered that similar roles pay between $76,000 and $84,000. I enjoy my job and working for ABC, but I’d also like to be fairly compensated for the contributions I’m making. I’m hoping you’ll agree to raise my salary within that range.  

Boss: Obviously, we appreciate what you bring to the team. I agree that a raise is warranted, but I can’t commit to a specific number right now. I’ll take a look at what you put together and see what we can do.  

You: I appreciate that. When can I expect to hear back about this?  

Boss: Give me a week or so to get back to you.  

You: Great. Thanks. Let me know if there’s anything else you need from me.

Situation 3: Letting an Employer Know You’re Quitting

Telling your supervisor that you’re leaving a job can be challenging, especially if you want to maintain a positive relationship. Approaching this conversation with tact, respect, and preparation is essential. Being clear about your intentions, timing your announcement thoughtfully, and offering to support the transition will help you leave on good terms while protecting your professional reputation. You may also want to review the information offered under How to Quit My Job.

Preparation:

• Requesting an in-person meeting is preferred. Ask your supervisor if there’s a time when you can schedule a meeting.
• Be prepared for your supervisor to ask you to stay. Decide in advance if you would change your mind about leaving if offered a counteroffer (raise or promotion).
• Be ready to answer the question of why you’re leaving. You may not want to provide the real reason, but be prepared to provide a reason.
• Also be prepared if your supervisor does not want you to prepare the resignation letter. Make sure you are ready to leave that day, if asked.

Make the ask:

[Boss name], I need to talk to you about something important. Do you have time in the next day or two to meet with me?  
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(Choose a timeframe that works for you and your boss.)

In the meeting:

This is a difficult conversation for me because I’ve enjoyed working with you, but I’ve accepted another job and will be leaving [ABC Company].

How it might sound:

You: Jim, I’ve appreciated working with you for the last three years, but I wanted to let you know that I’ve accepted another job. I won’t start the new role until August 15th because I wanted to give you two weeks' notice to redistribute my responsibilities and/or train someone to take my place.  

Boss: I’m sorry to hear that. You’ve been an important part of our team. Is there anything I can do to convince you to stay?  

You: Thanks, but no. I appreciate my time here, but I’ve already accepted the new job. I’m happy to work with you in the next two weeks to wrap up and/or transition all of my current projects. I’ve also prepared a formal letter of resignation. I also wanted to let you know how grateful I am for all the opportunities you’ve given me here, and I appreciate you being a mentor to me.  

Boss: Well, I appreciate that. We’re sure going to miss you. If you can put together an outline of the projects you’re working on, I’ll start preparing the team for what we need to do to make your departure as smooth as possible.  

You: Great. Thanks. I’ll get you that by the end of the day.

Situation 4: Responding to a Disappointing Performance Review

Receiving a poor or unexpected performance review can be disheartening, but how you respond can make a lasting impression. Taking time to reflect on the feedback, preparing specific questions, and framing the discussion around growth and improvement will show your manager that you are proactive, receptive, and committed to enhancing your performance. Handling this conversation professionally can help turn a disappointing review into an opportunity for development. You may want to visit How to Write a Self-Assessment Report for Your Performance Review.

Preparation:

• Take some time before responding to a bad review, and decide what you want to do. If you feel that the review was incorrect or unfair, it’s especially important to take your time and prepare your response.
• Was the review accurate? Was this the first time you’ve received a poor review? If the answer to both questions is “Yes,” meeting with your manager to discuss the review may be productive. In fact, you may want to request regular sit-down conversations to assess your performance to get you “back on track.”

Make the ask:

[Boss name], I’ve been thinking a lot since my review last week, and I’d like to sit down with you to discuss specific aspects of my performance review now that I’ve had a chance to reflect on it.

How it might sound:

You: Pete, I was kind of shocked by your ratings of my performance in last week’s review. Now that I’ve had a chance to think about it some more, I’d like to meet with you to discuss some specific aspects of it. Could we set up a time in the next week to do that?

In the meeting:

​You: I was pretty defensive in the meeting because I thought I’d been doing a great job. But after looking more closely at the review, I can see there are some things that I need to work on. So that I can improve my performance, I’d like to meet with you monthly, or at least quarterly, so that I can improve my performance for next year’s review. Is that possible?  

Boss: We could definitely do check-in meetings at least every other month to make sure you’re on track. But we’re pretty clear about our expectations for the areas that you scored low on, so I’m curious as to the changes you’re going to be making to improve in those areas.  

You: Yes, that’s one of the things that I want to talk about in our meetings. While I agree that there are expectations laid out for customer service interactions, for example, there are some things that are ambiguous, and also, you hadn’t said anything to me before about needing to document follow-up interactions, so I was surprised to see that noted on the review. I’m committed to improving my performance, but I want to make sure I’m on the right track.  

Boss: Well, I’m happy to discuss some of the specifics and to clarify anything that you feel is ambiguous. While it’s always been in the customer service guidelines to document follow-up interactions, this is a point of emphasis for management this year, so that’s why it’s noted in the review. But that’s the kind of thing that we can work on throughout the year, so it’s not a surprise for you on the annual review. You’re a valued employee, and I am happy to work with you on these issues.

Final Thoughts

​Mastering difficult workplace conversations requires preparation, clarity, and professionalism. By researching your value, focusing on accomplishments, and practicing your delivery, you can confidently ask for a raise, resign gracefully, or respond to challenging feedback. These conversations not only impact your current role but also shape your long-term career growth and reputation. Approach each discussion with respect, data, and a collaborative mindset, and you’ll leave a positive impression while advocating for yourself effectively.

Frequently Asked Questions

Many professionals face challenging workplace conversations during their careers, whether they are asking for a raise, resigning from a job, or responding to a performance review. Knowing how to approach these situations with preparation and professionalism can make a significant difference in the outcome. The following frequently asked questions provide practical guidance on salary negotiation, quitting a job professionally, and handling performance feedback, helping you navigate important workplace conversations with confidence.

How do I ask my boss for a raise professionally?

​To ask your boss for a raise professionally, prepare evidence of your accomplishments and schedule a dedicated meeting to discuss your salary. Begin by documenting your achievements, measurable results, and contributions to the company. Research industry salary benchmarks to understand your market value. During the meeting, clearly explain how your work benefits the organization and respectfully request a salary review. Approaching the conversation with preparation, confidence, and professionalism can significantly increase your chances of receiving a raise.

What is the best way to quit a job professionally?

​The best way to quit a job professionally is to give proper notice and submit a formal resignation letter. Most professionals provide at least two weeks’ notice and schedule a meeting with their supervisor to explain their decision. Express appreciation for the opportunities you were given and maintain a positive tone throughout the conversation. Offering to assist with the transition helps preserve professional relationships and protects your long-term reputation.

How should I respond to a poor performance review?

​If you receive a poor performance review, respond calmly and focus on improvement rather than becoming defensive. Ask your manager for specific examples of performance concerns and request clear expectations for improvement. Work with your supervisor to develop an action plan and set measurable goals. Demonstrating accountability and a willingness to grow can strengthen your professional credibility and help improve future evaluations.

What should I prepare before asking for a raise?

​Before asking for a raise, gather documentation that demonstrates your value to the organization. This may include successful projects, increased responsibilities, measurable results, and positive feedback from colleagues or clients. Research average salaries for your role and experience level within your industry. Preparing these details helps you present a clear and confident case during your salary discussion.

Is it better to ask for a raise in person or by email?

​It is generally better to ask for a raise in person or during a scheduled meeting rather than by email. A face-to-face conversation allows you to explain your accomplishments, demonstrate your value, and address questions immediately. Email is useful for requesting the meeting itself, but the actual salary discussion is usually more effective when handled directly with your manager.

How can I handle difficult workplace conversations with confidence?

​Handling difficult workplace conversations with confidence begins with preparation and clear communication. Whether you are asking for a raise, resigning from a position, or discussing performance feedback, define your goal before the conversation. Practice what you plan to say, remain professional, and listen carefully to your manager’s perspective. A calm and respectful approach helps create productive discussions and strengthens workplace relationships.

About the Author

As the founder of Market-Connections Professional Resume Writing Services and the primary author of this award-winning blog, Mandy Fard draws upon her extensive background as a LinkedIn Recruiter and Executive Resume Writer to empower job seekers. Based in Los Angeles, Mandy specializes in providing 'insider' recruitment perspectives that most candidates never get to see.
 
Having personally reviewed thousands of resumes, Mandy understands the precise nuances that capture a hiring manager’s attention. Through her writing, she simplifies the modern hiring landscape by sharing proven techniques for job searching, resume writing, interviewing, working with recruiters, and personal branding. Her goal is to equip professionals with the tools and confidence needed to navigate the Los Angeles job market and land their dream jobs faster.